How can you improve relationship communication?
- Don’t be afraid of asking questions
- Always start the conversation on a positive note
- Restate what your partner said
- Don’t feel awkward with silence
The communication skills of teachers at public speaking training in the Philippines did not start with their first stage presentation. Instead, their skills already started developing with their relationships. The way we talk to our audience is influenced by the way we talk to the people around us.
Unfortunately, interpersonal relationships have become a source of stress for us from time to time. Relationships become stressful when one, both sides do not know how to express their unique needs. Two, one or both sides are not willing to listen to each other. All of these are symptoms of bad communication.
Once you become good at communicating in your different relationships, you become a good speaker in other areas such as work. These are the tips you can follow to improve communication in your different relationships:
Don’t be afraid of asking questions
Leadership training teachers will emphasize the importance of asking your subordinates questions. These questions can be anything from your leadership, feelings of work, etc. You need to ask these questions because it is the best way to understanding them on a deeper level and having a sense of their expectations of you.
Asking questions is important in relationship communication because it pushes both sides to open up about your needs and priorities. When you know your different needs and priorities, it becomes easier to deal with them in ways that do not stress them out.
Always start the conversation on a positive note
Our relationships, especially the romantic kind, developed because our loved ones thought we would be great to talk to. For example, you tend to smile a lot whenever you talk to a stranger at a party before, so people got the impression that you are a person who is open-minded. Or, your girlfriend approached you before an event because you looked like a self-confident fellow since you spoke in a very calm tone.
In short, you did not come off as harsh, scary, or other common negative description. Sadly, after becoming comfortable in a relationship, we start showing more negative traits when we converse with our partner. We start our conversations with criticisms and generally harsh words, and then verbal fights and misunderstandings soon start.
If you are only interested in being negative, why do you bother communicating with them then? Your partner deserves to be treated and talked to in a positive and friendly manner. If you start with a positive note, good communication also follows.
Restate what your partner said
The best public training in the Philippines are the ones where host speakers are not the only people talking. Good training sessions will include the audience and speakers interacting with each other. Whenever a participant stands up and contributes their own thoughts to the discussion, the host will not talk over him or her. Afterward, the person will restate what the participant just said to show that they truly listened.
Being able to restate what your partner just expressed is fundamental to good communication. You don’t have to repeat what your partner said word-for-word. But, verbalizing in your what you just heard them say a few moments after they stopped talking shows your empathy. You are showing you care enough about the person to listen to them and that you are heavily invested in this interaction between both of you.
Of course, you are not the only one in the relationship should do this. Your partner should also be willing to listen and show that they understood what you just said.
Don’t feel awkward with silence
Do you notice how speakers in seminars, like leadership training, don’t panic when their audience doesn’t respond right away to their questions? Most people will start to fumble their words or show anxiety if they feel unnoticed. Because most people, including you, are uncomfortable with silence around people, it is good to start removing that fear with our interpersonal relationships.
Whenever our loved one suddenly goes quiet around us, our first response is to be insecure. Thoughts like “Did I say something wrong” or “Was I too boring to hold a conversation with?” repeatedly run through our heads.
- You can reflect on what is the most appropriate thing to say to him or her
- Both sides can practice self-control when they are feeling too emotional
- Sometimes listening to our loved one is more selfless than opening our mouths
- We gain wisdom because we have the time to think deeply
Remembering the benefits of silence not only make us less nervous around people in our private circle but also public. Next time, your audience doesn’t react away to your questions during public work presentations, do not panic. They may just be simply thinking good to say.
Key Takeaway
How you talk in public presentations is greatly influenced by the way you talk and hold conversations with your loved ones. Our interpersonal relationships can become a source of stress when we cannot communicate our needs and when one or both sides refuse to listen to the other.